Most people picture self-defense as a single dramatic moment — the door kicked in, the parking lot confrontation, the figure stepping out of the shadows. What gets lost in that mental movie is everything that happens in the seconds and minutes around it. Who's coming to help. How long it takes. And what you're supposed to do while you wait. I've spent more than four decades teaching people how to defend themselves — with handguns, rifles, shotguns, Byrna launchers, Tasers, pe